Be clear about your reasons for breaking up

Never tell someone you want to break up as a way of manipulating them or getting them to do something you want to do.

Be sure you have time to talk about your reasons for the break-up and for both of you to let out your feelings about it.

Choose a private place but public to end the relationship. Even if you are not concerned about violence, try not to be too isolated. Be sure other people can hear you in case things get out of control.

Don’t do it through a friend, on the phone, or through a letter (unless you are concerned about violence).